I met him two years ago. He came, and we started living together, and life was tough than I had expected before. We are planning to get married next year, but the idea of having a child has brought a lot of disagreements. He doesn’t want us to have a kid. He said that if a child is mandatory, he can give up on such a marriage. This has created a lot of tension. I’m so much worried. We had a very long discussion but still couldn’t agree. He said he couldn’t change his mind. I don’t know what to do because I do love this guy and I don’t want to lose him, but I still need a child. I can’t stay a life without a kid.
Should I give up on this fellow or should I try to open up his heart? I don’t know what to do. I’m just confused.
I’m sorry for such a difficult situation. It is important to note that children cement marriage. Children are sources of happiness. It is good to sit and come up with a solution if you still love the guy. If the guy likes you, you should appreciate the child. Can you save a marriage that is fizzling out? When you initially fall in love and get wedded, the last thing you would ever think about is if your wedlock will fall apart.
You have your newfound love, and you feel that your relationship will last forever. Unfortunately, things do not always happen that way. If left unfixed, a once happy marriage could diminish to a broken relationship with your spouse. Worse yet, it could lead to an unforeseen divorce on the horizon. Yes, it is indeed possible to save your marriage. It will surely, take some time and a lot of effort, but your hard work will significantly pay off in the end.
One of the last phases the marriage goes through comes after having children. In a family that has children, it is common for parents to put their children first before their spouse. Of course, agreements need to be made beforehand to hire a sitter to care for the kids. If you cannot find a sitter, you can reschedule your date night for the weekend. Your kids could then go over to a friends house to spend the night. This would give you both the entire evening to rekindle that flame and keep things fired up in the relationship. That roaring fire can surely help save your marriage over an icy cold cocktail at your favorite restaurant or lounge.
Save your marriage by showing your partner that you mean it and you care. They will love and appreciate you more for it!